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hi ho, I am ESFJ! December 22, 2009

Posted by TianMuhammad in Belajar lagiii, Office Hour.
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Hei hooo! I’m back, people! Have you ever thought, how many people are in the world today? Based on survey held by United States Census Bureau, the Earth’s population is now approximately 6,791,500,000 as of 22 December 2009. Detail info, click here.

But do you know, those billion of people only have 16  personalities types, based on the theory by David Keirsey, a psychologist,  professor emeritus at Oklahoma University.

Keirsey, however, differs the  elements into: Extraverted  (E) – Introverted (I) , Sensing (S)  – Intuitive (N) , Thinking  (T) – Feeling (F), Judging (J)  – Perceiving (P).

Well, from the eight elements above, we can get the personalities types below:

Temperamen 1: Protectors (SJ)
ESTJ – Overseer
ESFJ – Supporter
ISTJ – Examiner
ISFJ – Defender

Temperamen 2: Creators (SP)
ESTP – Persuader
ESFP – Entertainer
ISTP – Craftsman
ISFP – Artist

Temperamen 3: Intellectuals (NT)
ENTJ – Chief
ENTP – Originator
INTJ – Strategist
INTP – Engineer

Temperamen 4: Visionaries (NF)
ENFJ – Mentor
ENFP – Advocate
INFJ – Confidant
INFP – Dreamer

Well, if you haven’t known your type of personalities, you can click this page: http://www.mypersonality.info/personality-types/. There are 76 questions which will help you guide you to find out what’s your personality.

And if you have answered all of the questions, here are the brief explanation of each elements:

Extraverted (E)

Extravert adalah kecenderungan untuk berfokus pada dunia di luar diri. Orang extraverts menikmati interaksi sosial dan cenderung antusias, verbal, tegas, dan animasi. Mereka menikmati pertemuan-pertemuan sosial yang besar, seperti pesta dan segala macam aktivitas kelompok. Orang extraverts cenderung untuk menikmati waktu yang dihabiskan dengan orang-orang dan mendapat energi dari interaksi sosial.

Ciri-ciri Orang Extravert

* Suka berteman
* Asertif
* Cerewet
* Sosial / keluar
* Suka berkelompok, pesta, dll
* Mendapat energi dari interaksi
* Ekspresif & antusias
* Sukarelawan informasi pribadi
* Perhatiannya mudah dialihkan
* Mempunyai banyak teman

Introvert (I)

Introvert adalah kecenderungan untuk berfokus pada dunia di dalam diri. Orang-orang introvert cenderung tenang, damai dan hati-hati dan tidak tertarik pada interaksi sosial. Mereka menyukai aktivitas yang bisa mereka lakukan sendiri atau dengan salah satu teman dekat yang lain, kegiatan seperti membaca, menulis, berpikir, dan menciptakan. Orang-orang  introvert merasa kegiatan pertemuan sosial melelahkan.

Ciri-ciri Orang Introvert

* Mendapat energi dari waktu menyendiri
* Menjaga privasi
* Tenang
* Bertindak dengan sengaja
* Sadar diri
* Lebih sedikit teman-teman
* Lebih menyukai kelompok kecil
* Independen
* Cenderung kurang bersosialisasi
* Suka kesendirian
* Berpikir sebelum berbicara

Sensing (S)

Sensing adalah bagaimana orang memproses data. Orang-orang Sensing berfokus pada masa kini, orang-orang yang mementingkan situasi “di sini dan sekarang”, faktual, dan memproses informasi melalui panca indra. Mereka melihat hal-hal sebagaimana adanya, mereka adalah pemikir konkret.

Ciri-ciri Orang Sensing

* Konkret
* Realistis
* Hidup di masa kini
* Sadar sekelilingnya
* Memperhatikan detil
* Praktis
* Mengutamakan indra
* Faktual

Intuisi (N)

Intuisi adalah bagaimana orang memproses data. Orang-orang intuitif berfokus pada masa depan dan kemungkinan-kemungkinan. Mereka memproses informasi melalui pola dan tayangan. Mereka membaca yang tersirat, mereka adalah pemikir abstrak.

Ciri-ciri Orang Intuitif

* Berfokus pada masa depan
* Melihat kemungkinan-kemungkinan
* Inovatif
* Imajinatif
* Berpikir dalam
* Abstrak
* Idealis
* Rumit
* Teoritis

Thinking (T)

Thinking adalah bagaimana orang membuat keputusan. Orang-orang Thinking berpikir obyektif dan membuat keputusan berdasarkan fakta. Mereka dipimpin oleh otak, bukan hati mereka. Orang-orang Thinking menilai situasi dan orang lain berdasarkan logika.

Ciri-ciri Orang Thinking

* Logis
* Obyektif
* Memutuskan dengan kepala
* Menginginkan kebenaran
* Rasional
* Tidak personal
* Kritis
* Tebal muka
* Tegas terhadap orang lain
* Didorong oleh pikiran

Feeling (F)

Feeling adalah bagaimana orang membuat keputusan. Orang-orang Feeling berpikir subyektif dan membuat keputusan berdasarkan prinsip-prinsip dan nilai-nilai. Mereka diperintah oleh hati/perasaan, bukan kepala/otak mereka. Orang-orang Feeling menilai situasi dan orang lain berdasarkan pada perasaan dan keadaan khusus.

Ciri-ciri Orang Feeling

* Memutuskan dengan hati
* Tidak suka konflik
* Berbelas kasihan
* Didorong oleh emosi
* Lembut
* Mudah terluka
* Memiliki empati
* Peduli orang lain
* Hangat

Judging (J)

Judging adalah kecenderungan penampilan luar. Judging tidak berarti “menghakimi”. Orang-orang Judging menyukai keteraturan, organisasi dan berpikir secara berurutan. Mereka lebih suka hal-hal terencana dan mantap. Orang-orang Judging mencari kesimpulan.

Ciri-ciri Orang Judging

* Bisa memutuskan
* Terkendali
* Bagus dalam menyelesaikan sesuatu
* Teratur
* Terstruktur
* Terjadwal
* Cepat dalam menangani tugas
* Bertanggung jawab
* Menyukai kesimpulan
* Membuat rencana

Perceiving (P)

Perceiving adalah kecenderungan penampilan luar. Orang-orang Perceiving bersifat fleksibel, menyukai adanya banyak pilihan dan berpikir secara acak. Mereka suka bertindak secara spontan dan mudah beradaptasi. Orang-orang Perceiving suka hal-hal yang berakhir dengan pilihan bebas.

Ciri-ciri Orang Perceiving

* Bisa beradaptasi
* Rileks
* Terorganisir
* Bebas
* Spontan
* Suka berubah di tengah jalan
* Menyukai pilihan bebas
* Suka menunda-nunda
* Tidak suka rutinitas
* Fleksibel

Jadi, apa kegunaan dari tes kepribadian ini? Tes kepribadian biasanya digunakan untuk mengetahui pekerjaan apa yang cocok dengan tipe kepribadian tertentu. Saya contohnya, seorang ESFJ, berdasar teori Keirsey ini, pekerjaan yang cocok untuk saya adalah: akuntan, management leader, trainer, guru, atau dokter keluarga. So, how about yours, twips?

p.s.:

  • hasil test kepribadian saya dapat dilihat di http://www.mypersonality.info/tianmuhammad/
  • saya mencoba tes kepribadian ini pertama kali ketika tingkat II kuliah, dan hasilnya tetap tidak berubah sampai sekarang. (hasil tes memang dimungkinkan untuk berubah sejalan perkembangan kejiwaan seseorang)
  • sumber resmi tulisan saya dapat dilihat di sini.

on Serena Williams, Luna Maya, and those anger expression December 17, 2009

Posted by TianMuhammad in Belajar lagiii, Office Hour.
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“I swear to God I’m [expletive] going to take this [expletive] ball and shove it down your [expletive] throat, you hear that? I swear to God” (Serena Williams, world’s #1 tennis player, said to lines-woman on US Open 2009)

“Infotemnt derajatnya lebh HINA dr pd PELACUR,PEMBUNUH!!!!may ur soul burn in hell!!” Luna Maya,  a famous Indonesian actress, via Twitter)

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See the statements above, twips? (feels like I’m on twitter). Can you tell me what I’m about to show you? Yes, you are right! Two famous women showing their emotions, anger, which they’ve never realized before could be a disaster for them.

Few days after Serena Williams did what WTA called ”major offense” at a Grand Slam court, she was fined US$82,500, the highest fine for a Grand Slam offense by far. And if she has another “major offense” at a Grand Slam tournament in that time, the fine would increase to $175,000 and she would be barred from the following U.S. Open.

As well Luna Maya. A day after she typed her status update on twitter, she now will be investigated due to her twitter status.

See my point, twips? Well, it may sound cliche, but be careful of what you say, or what you do. People said: what goes around, comes around. Let’s just leave Serena Williams and Luna Maya alone. They might need themselves to be alone.

I’m about to talk about the anger. Well, as a human, anger is a common emotion. No one can resist it. But do you know twips, the physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of harm.  Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

(since I am not a psychology student, my following is copied from Wikipedia).

Well, there are two kinds of anger, the passive anger and aggressive one.

Passive anger can be expressed in the following ways:

  • Secretive behavior, such as stockpiling resentments that are expressed behind people’s backs, giving the silent treatment or under the breath mutterings, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping, anonymous complaints, poison pen letter, stealing, and conning.
  • Psychological manipulation, such as provoking people to aggression and then patronizing them, provoking aggression but staying on the sidelines, emotional blackmail, false tearfullness, feigning illness, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, using a third party to convey negative feelings, withholding money or resources.
  • Self-blame, such as apologizing too often, being overly critical, inviting criticism.
  • Self-sacrifice, such as being overly helpful, making do with second best, quietly making long suffering signs but refusing help, or lapping up gratefulness.
  • Ineffectualness, such as setting yourself and others up for failure, choosing unreliable people to depend on, being accident prone, underachieving, sexual impotence, expressing frustration at insignificant things but ignoring serious ones.
  • Dispassion, such as giving the cold shoulder or phony smiles, looking unconcerned, sitting on the fence while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse, overeating, oversleeping, not responding to another’s anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and make objects of participants, giving inordinate amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no feeling.
  • Obsessive behavior, such as needing to be clean and tidy, making a habit of constantly checking things, over-dieting or overeating, demanding that all jobs be done perfectly.
  • Evasiveness, such as turning your back in a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back, becoming phobic.

While the symptoms of aggressive anger are:

  • Threats, such  frightening people by saying how you could harm them, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes or symbols associated with violent behaviour, tailgating, slamming doors.
  • Hurtfulness, such as physical violence, verbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking a confidence, using foul language, ignoring people’s feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, punishing people for unwarranted deeds, labeling others.
  • Destructiveness, such as destroying objects, harming animals, destroying a relationship between two people, reckless driving, substance abuse.
  • Bullying, such as threatening people directly, persecuting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting, using a car to force someone off the road, playing on people’s weaknesses.
  • Unjust blaming, such as accusing other people for your own mistakes, blaming people for your own feelings, making general accusations.
  • Manic behavior, such as speaking too fast, walking too fast, working too much and expecting others to fit in, driving too fast, reckless spending.
  • Grandiosity, such as showing off, expressing mistrust, not delegating, being a sore loser, wanting center stage all the time, not listening, talking over people’s heads, expecting kiss and make-up sessions to solve problems.
  • Selfishness, such as ignoring other’s needs, not responding to requests for help, queue jumping.
  • Vengeance, such as being over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget, bringing up hurtful memories from the past.
  • Unpredictability, such as explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing unjust punishment, inflicting harm on others for the sake of it, using alcohol and drugs, illogical arguments.

So, which one are you, twips? I have seen almost all kinds of both passive or aggressive anger. It’s not hard to be found. Join twitter, and you’ll find them. (not all of twitter users are rude, some are nice, some are extremely rude).

It should be stated that anyone displaying any of these behaviours does not always have an anger management problem. But psychologists recommend a balanced approach to anger, which both controls the emotion and allows the emotion to express itself in a healthy way. Some descriptions of actions of anger management are:

  • Direct, such as not beating around the bush, making behaviour visible and conspicuous, using body language to indicate feelings clearly and honestly, anger directed at persons concerned.
  • Honorable, such as making it apparent that there is some clear moral basis for the anger, being prepared to argue your case, never using manipulation or emotional blackmail, never abusing another person’s basic human rights, never unfairly hurting the weak or defenseless, taking responsibility for actions.
  • Focused, such as sticking to the issue of concern, not bringing up irrelevant material.
  • Persistent, such as repeating the expression of feeling in the argument over and over again, standing your ground, self defense.
  • Courageous, such as taking calculated risks, enduring short term discomfort for long term gain, risking displeasure of some people some of the time, taking the lead, not showing fear of other’s anger, standing outside the crowd and owning up to differences, using self-protective skills.
  • Passionate, such as using full power of the body to show intensity of feeling, being excited and motivated, acting dynamically and energetically, initiating change, showing fervent caring, being fiercely protective, enthusing others.
  • Creative, such as thinking quickly, using more wit, spontaneously coming up with new ideas and new views on subject
  • Forgiveness, such as demonstrating a willingness to hear other people’s anger and grievances, showing an ability to wipe the slate clean once anger has been expressed.
  • Listen to what is being said to you. Anger creates a hostility filter, and often all you can hear is negatively toned.

Ahh, I know this post can be so boring. But all I want to do is just share some information about the anger and how we manage it well. As we know, lately, we heard a lot of suicide news. That suicide, might be happened because many people don’t know how to manage their emotion. So twips, control your emotion, be healthy, be happy!

p.s.:

  • I am more into psychology than accounting. I wish someday I can take degree on psychology.
  • None says anger is a bad. But all agreed that uncontrollable anger is kind of illness, and keep an anger under control is a wise decision.

sparkleandspin’s favorite quote: 3 December 11, 2009

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A politician should do two terms. One in office and one in jail (via funnyoneliners)

on Mirror, Plane, and Train December 11, 2009

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Happiness is looking in a mirror and liking what we see

Kamis pekan lalu, saya berkesempatan mengunjungi Jogja (lagi) untuk entah yang keberapa kalinya. I have never felt bored though how many times I’ve been there. hah, entah kenapa Jogja begitu menarik perhatian saya.

Saya ke Jogja dengan maskapai penerbangan Garuda Indonesia, maskapai yang diklaim sebagai maskapai yang terbaik di Indonesia dan punya slogan Visit Indonesia 2009. Namun entah kenapa, tidak seperti biasanya, saya merasa tidak nyaman selama saya berada dalam pesawat. Kursi pesawat yang saya duduki membuat punggung saya pegal huhuhu. Untung saja perjalanan dari Jakarta – Jogja hanya memakan waktu 1 jam, jadi saya tidak perlu menanggung penderitaan terlalu lama *lebay.

When I started to complain everything about Garuda, saya kembali sadar, I was nothing before I have a job. Saya dulu hanyalah seorang yang polos dan tidak berdosa *plakk *suara tamparan dari pembaca.

Saya jadi ingat kembali ketika masa-masa saya magang di tempat bekerja saya sekarang. Dulu, kami hanya mendapat uang magang 1 juta lebih sekian rupiah. Jangan berpikiran kalau uang 1 juta itu banyak di Jakarta. Kami masih harus membayar biaya kos, transpor,  serta keperluan sehari-hari untuk sebulan. Hitung saja, jika biaya kos per bulan 500 ribu, ditambah uang transpor: 2* 5000*22 hari = 220rb, bisa dihitung kan, berapa sisa uang kami sampai akhir bulan??

Oh ya, dulu saya selalu naik kereta sewaktu magang. Kereta 5000 sekali jalan itu apa sih namanya, setingkat lebih baik dari kereta ekonomi, tetapi masih di bawah kereta eksekutif. Ingat, kereta Ciujung namanya! Saya selalu berangkat pukul 06.00 kurang dari kos karena kereta Ciujung  berangkat pukul 06.15 (oh, how Jakarta I am *sok sibuk *sok berangkat pagi)..

this is, maybe, the real image of most Indonesia people

Kadang kala, ketika persediaan saya sudah menipis, saya naik kereta ekonomi yang bertarif 1500 sekali jalan. Di kereta inilah, mungkin, gambaran nyata rakyat Indonesia pada umumnya terpampang dengan jelas. Penulis skenario film tragedi boleh cari ide di sini, dijamin nggak  bakal kehabisan ide. Dari mulai pengemis buntung, pengamen anak-anak, tukang sapu wanita renta, semua ada di sini.. Siaran live lagi…. Dan hebatnya, komunitas tadi tidak hanya satu maupun dua rombongan. Jumlahnya bahkan lebih banyak daripada kalangan menengah ke atas di Indonesia.

*saya kembali sadar, naik-pesawat-Garuda-kelas-ekonomi-whatever sudah merupakan nikmat yang begitu besar apabila dibandingkan dengan “orang yang kurang beruntung di kereta ekonomi”. #tertohok #malu #pakehanduk

Bagi teman-teman yang selama ini selalu melihat pemandangan mall dan berbagai hal menarik lainnya, dan mungkin ingin bergaya hidup seperti orang yang berpunya (walaupun sebenarnya belum bisa), cobalah untuk sekali-kali berkunjung ke gambaran lain rakyat Indonesia: kereta ekonomi. And realise, how lucky we are.

sparkleandspin’s favorite quote: 2 November 30, 2009

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Rory: “Oh my God, I hate her!”

Lorelai: “Ah, me too”

Rory: ” You have no idea who I’m talking about”

Lorelai: “Solidarity, sister”

(Gilmore Girls)